Alam ko hindi lahat ng tao ay biniyayaan ng supportive na katuwang sa buhay. Actually, bihira na nga makahanap ng supportive na asawa.
Yung tipong bibigyan ka ng reality check pero ipu-push ka pa rin na mag-improve sa mga bagay na gusto mong marating. ‘Yung kahit na nada-down ka na kasi parang walang pinapatunguhan yung mga efforts mo, andyan pa rin sya para sabihin na O.K. lang yan kasi passion mo yan. Sobrang bihira ng yung mga ganyang asawa.
Unfortunately, isa ang asawa ko sa mga HINDI supportive. Kapag may mga gusto akong gawin, he will allow me to do it and when I felt down about it, he will pour all the discouragements. He loves giving reality checks that most often sounds like “you’re doing something hopeless and useless again so you better stop it now”. Just like when I finally had my own domain (which means I’m already spending a bit on my blogging), I asked him to check how my blog looks and if the things that I want to do are possible. His response? “Wala namang magbabasa nyan 😀 “
Well, yes. Oo nga walang nagbabasa. Truth hurts nga. Npakalaking tulong talaga nya! ‘Yan ang dahilan kung bakit halos never akong nanghihingi ng opinyon nya.
Whenever I get fed up with this attitude, he’d say sorry. I remember the first time we had a fight because of his attitude, I was so down that time and I’m pregnant with our daughter. He said sorry and he explained that when he’s younger, that’s how he gets motivated. I don’t know how harsh someone’s childhood had to be to get motivated by something as harsh as this. The more you step on him and try to crash him, he’ll get even more fired up to accomplish what he wants and I think that’s a good thing.
Maybe it simply works for him (and other people) but it totally destroys my spirit even more if I would be on the receiving end. Getting “reality checks” from him gets me out of my fantasy world really gets me back to reality. It may look as him being not supportive but maybe he’s really just trying to help.