[This is not about pregnancy.]
I love reading confessions on university Facebook pages. Last time I posted a confession from FEU Secret Files, today I’m going to share a confession from The UST Files.
Here’s the link to the original post.
The sender’s confession is a letter for her father who already passed away. She told him that she was raped 6 times by different people, one of them is her own brother. She’s only 19 years old right now and almost no one knows what happened to her (her friends know it only happened once, she doesn’t want her family to know it either).
From her confession, I felt that she’s traumatized by her experience (she mentioned that some nights she’s afraid of sleeping. She just keeps on crying until sunrise, that’s the only time that she feels safe). It must be really really hard to lose someone you can lean on, someone you know will protect you (which is her father). First question that popped up in my head after reading it was “Where’s your mom?”. Her father died, is her mom already dead?
First thing I did was I messaged the admins (it’s private, shhh).
Then, I grabbed some popcorn and read the comments. Nah, just kidding.
The post never mentioned anything about god/God or religion, but the comment section became an arena regarding those topics. For me as an eclectic Wiccan, it is irritating that there are those people would disregard the main issue (which, I think, is rape and abuse) and insensitively say ” It’s in God’s plan”.
Then…it’s followed by this:
And there jerks like this asshole:
Why? Why would you associate religion with…that?
I know, UST is a catholic school but still, I don’t really get the essence of why they’d do it. Are they trying to console the rape victim by saying the it’s God’s plan and maybe He have some bigger plans for her? Most of those people simply said “Just pray, it will all go away”. Seriously? I’m not belittling the power of prayer but “I will pray for you” seems more appropriate.
(Some “Christians” even called one of the page admins a hypocrite for studying in a Catholic school when s/he is an atheist. I graduated in a Catholic school during high school, come college I decided to be a Wiccan, nice right?)
When you start a religious debate, it’s never ending and most of the time it just sounds stupid and down right insensitive. As they say, “live and let live”, “to each his own”.
Now for assholes who said she’s stupid for staying silent (and other victim-blaming classics). Well, have you experienced what she experienced? I just wish that thing won’t happen to any of their daughters or sisters.